Living as a Christian girl in this generation is really hard and would be impossible without the help and love of God. I have faced many giants in my walk with God just because there is so much pressure in being a Christian girl. There are 5 topics that have affected me the most.
1. Modesty
Being modest has always been an obstacle for me. Surprisingly, I have always been aware of modesty; however, I didn't change the way I lived until I was about 18. Wearing low cut shirts, booty shorts, or just showing too much. It's so hard finding a swimsuit that is modest and presentable. I struggle with this every summer. 1 Timothy 2:9 states "Likewise also that women should adorn themselves in respectable apparel, with modesty and self-control, not with braided hair and gold or pearls or costly attire". Clearly, it is important for women to dress modestly. Also Matthew 18:6-9 talks about how important it is to not be a stumbling block to another person. As I prayed and let these verses sink in, it hit me. For me to go out in public wearing a bikini that only covered the obvious areas, I was being a stumbling block for every guy who saw me. Not because I'm a super model (because I'm far from it) but because of men's curiosity of the woman's body. If a woman is out in the open wearing hardly anything, a guy is going to look and lust over that woman. Matthew 5:28 states "But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart." I don't know about you...but I don't want to be the reason a man is committing adultery.
2. Purity
Purity is such a marvelous thing that many girls lose at a young age. Call me old school but I know that saving yourself until marriage is a priority. How amazing would it be to be able to tell your husband that on your wedding night you had saved yourself just for him? In this world, girls are crazy if they haven't had sex by the time they are 18. To me, that is so messed up. For one, not having sex is the best form of birth control. Also, having sex before marriage causes unneeded tension and feelings within a relationship. There really is nothing good about it. Sex was meant to be a beautiful thing. People of the world have made it into such a bad thing...it's okay as long as the marriage covenant is present. Committing adultery is also a sin. 1 Corinthians 1:6-9 "Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men who practice homosexuality..."
God is a forgiving God. If you have lost this amazing gift...ask for forgiveness and turn from the sin. God will restore. 1 John 1:9 states "If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness."
3. Relationships
Your 20 years old they said....find a guy and get married they said...you need to start a family they said...you're going to be alone with a bunch of cats they said! NO! I am living for God. When the right guy comes along I will know without a doubt because God is writing my love story. Currently, I am only on the first page of that story. The first page starts off with just me and God....strengthening our relationship. He needs to be first and I need to fall in love with Him. Eventually, in His timing, if it is His will...He will provide me with an amazing guy with the same God focused heart as me. I am loving every second of our relationship. As girls, we don't have to constantly be in a relationship that we know will only break hearts. What is the point of being in a relationship when you know that the ending is going to come in time. There is no point!
4. Success
All of my life, I have had one thought in my mind...I need to succeed, I need to prove everyone wrong of me being just a random girl in a big world. I have had the thought of success engraved in my mind. I have come to realize that the only success I need to focus on is making it to heaven and bringing other with me. As a college student, this can be one of the hardest mindsets ever. In all reality, I could die right now and my worldly success will mean nothing. Everything that I have stored up in this world will not matter. Even the thoughts of people won't matter once I'm dead...but the thoughts of God will determine life or death. Matthew 6:25-33 and Jeremiah 29:11-14 state to not worry about tomorrow because God already has a plan for you and He will make a path.
5. Media
I saved this point for last because I believe that it affects every aspect of a Christian girl's life if we allow it to. Music...movies...commercials...celebrities...computers...there are negative influences everywhere telling us to do drugs, have sex, go party drunk, YOLO, go twerk with everyone who looks at you, you have to be a certain size to be hot, your image needs to be the first thing you think about, be crazy, show as much of your body that you want, girls are only sex figures that don't deserve respect....these are just some of the many lies that all forms of media are blasting in our faces. We have to stand strong and realize that there is so much more to a human life than image...we are blessed with other forms of positive media that we need to focus our attention on. Christian music has become so popular. Instead of listening to Jay Z, Macklemore, and Eminem...listen to Lecrae, Andy Mineo, Bizzle, or Trip Lee. Instead of watching rated R movies...watch cartoons, Fireproof, Courageous, or anything that has a positive influence within your life. Instead of watching MTV...watch Lifetime or Duck Dynasty. I promise you could tell me any form of media that is bad...and I could match it with a form of media that is just, if not more, entertaining than the negative influence that is causing pain in your life. You may not know that it is causing you to fall...but it is! I used to be a huge MTV fan until I realized that what was coming out of my mouth and what my eyes were seeing didn't glorify God. Be careful little eyes what you see...be careful little ears what you hear! BE CAREFUL!
I hope this brought encouragement to you! I am constantly praying for those who read my articles. If you would like me to pray or just need someone to talk to, I am always here with love! ♥
